Life of Compromise

I think it is not basi yet for me to post here the wedding of Duan's PA, Qay Qay or Hidayah...I am wishing both the newly wed...Selamat Pengantin BAru...still very much baru berdenting honeymooning at about 2 months of marriage...kalau fendifid dah berkurun dah...tak kuase nak pandang pasangan remaja lah sangat  tu ha..ha..ha..

I think the dress of the bride is quite simple but gorgeous. Some may have the opinion that these days our pengantin hardly wear our traditional costume like songket which tags along our identity ...but this is 21st century people...tolong lah ha..ha..ha..yg penting gambar cantik..tak berpeluh ketiak ha..ha..ha.

See...my family ikut theme....the clothing of my baju kurung was boughtin Bandung...again...he..he an dthe tudung was from the KLCC boutique..it like tudung SITI serkup....the bag...cer teka..ha..ha..ha..tak kuase kan?

The hall was all wrapped in red and white...
Know what this girl actually sang for his groom..I think that was so cool and romantic right?...
during my time, i was speechless being asked "how do u feel?"..and Duan did all the talking..punya lah!

Once again I put my wedding pic...songket tu...and the kasut also the very the traditionalist kan? Pakai sekali tu aje.

Ahh...last weekend Duan told me that my name LIZ means compromise...or cooperative...he said that is not good coz i may end up Give in too much in dealing with people...being bullied in other words---...his concern is well noted...
I dont know where he got it from...when i googled for Liz ..i found God's promise-Oath of God- God's vow--it is hebrew .....ya kot..oath of god must be compromising and very much cooperative etc..
To relate with Life of Copromise aka Marriage ---- isnt that character is top of the pop for life of compromise? he..he..he..so i cpould be very successful in marriage huh ..insyallah..I do think we need to compromise a lot in marriage -- it is no more about you but it is all about US...got to move as a team.  Before marriage , there was only LOVE...but after marriage there are THOUSANDS of other things...at top of the list i think in today's world is MONEY...

There are people I know that forever complaining about money..u pay what i pay what..this is mine and that is also mine..endless...that is scary...and yet you live under one roof. Also if you keep thinking that the other party should start first in the dealings then I think you bound to have problems -both parties cant be pulling the rope or the rope will putus.So compromise is the answer and of course doa..
Perhaps it is easier for me to say, because of the life that i have... which does not match the kind of turmoil that those people is experiencing--Thus I also believe compromise to an extend...who is going to help us if not our own self --we cant be choosing to be a victim all the time...so compromise and being bullied is 2 different things...be careful!

As a muslim I also think we should fall back to guidance given in the Quran and Sunah...I have been reading a lot on Rasulullah SWT and learn a lot from it...also from the marriage that Rasullullah SWT had with Khadijah. that is the kind love story we should memorise. It has everything from love, money, trust , responsibility etc..The main thing in marriage , I think is being responsible..i.e undersatnding our responsibility..then others would fill in its place nicely.

Also another thing woman should undersatnd their rights...as an example,  Nusyuz....it is always being associated to woman keluar rumah and all that ...but in actual fact suami can be claimed Nusyuz as well. I know this recently from my reading. Selalu dengar org cakap aje...so dengar can , but do dig for more information...i.e. reads!

Actually what Duan told me lingers in my mind for a few days...thinking how bad is it my name can bring to my wellbeing...and at the end I conclude that it bring more good in my life this far...be it in my family life, my working and my dealings with people.So please call me LIZ still, people!