Me-Him-Love

I was talking to a friend today...one topic after another and we reached the family life part.

He mentioned that woman is all the same, they cant share their husband but, if the fate, makes her a second wife, she can just endure and drop all her earlier principles.

Wow...that statement of his actually stops me for a moment....

Actually I think, how we see things change with age and situation. When he was with his ex, that was...i named it "ground zero" period....there was nothing between you...just you and her and love. You barely have anything else. That love was wonderful and pure and because there was only u-her-love in the equation...sense of ownership is overwhelmed. Then I presume her second decision was based on different basis and may have different intention also...there are many other things in between he and she.

it actually moved me saying those to my friend...and he actually asked me to stop on that topic..

It also triggers me , that was how my start--that is my story...there was me-him and love...nothing else. There was no question of material, career, what i have , what he has..........it was just .....love!

I understand that some people are not having this simplicity we had...there are so many variables need to be assessed, career, status, this, that, those, and the list grows.

Isnt that scary? I think so...Having said that, there is nothing wrong in making choices--we do that everyday...but i just think, we got to be careful with our basis and one should know that the other party may be considering certain criterias as well....that is another scary thought emmmm.

Anyway... the real test is definitely after the akad....for that I also believe that even if you dont have the right basis at the start, you still can work the marriage ....with patience , compromise, and lots more...and of course continuous of doa....afterall, Allah juga penentu semuanya.

Looking back , I just feel blessed with how my first phase was fated....it was so easy and direct, as there was only Me, Him and Love .................... May Allah bless us yesterday, today and forever.